Fun is not optional for us as Black men; it is part of how we heal, regulate our emotions, and stay balanced.Fellas, let me ask you a real question:**What do YOU do for fun?** Not what you do because you’re a good father, a solid partner, or a responsible man of God—but what you do that actually feels fun to *you*.A lot of us blur the line between duty and joy. We show up for our kids, our families, our churches, and our communities because we are leaders, providers, and protectors. But if we’re honest, being present doesn’t always mean we’re actually having fun. Sometimes we’re serving, but we’re not enjoying. Sometimes we’re in the room, but our spirit is still heavy.Fun is different.Fun is where your body can finally exhale, your mind gets a break, and your emotions get room to breathe. Consistent, enjoyable downtime has been shown to lower stress, lift mood, and help people bounce back from everyday pressure and trauma. For Black men who carry unspoken expectations, racial stress, and the pressure to “always be strong,” that kind of joy is not childish—it’s **therapy** in motion. So in this space, let’s keep it honest and specific:- What actually makes you laugh out loud?- What helps you lose track of time in a *good* way?- What would you still do even if nobody thanked you, praised you, or posted it online?Drop ONE thing that is **pure fun** for you—not for your kids, not for your family, not for your job—for YOU.No judgment. No shaming. Just brothers naming what joy looks like for them, so we’re not only carrying weight—we’re also creating room for rest, play, and emotional balance. God is not against men having fun; He is the One who actually *gives* us good things to enjoy. The verse says He “gives us richly all things to enjoy,” and that’s the part I want to sit with. Brothers, that means healthy fun is not some side piece to the Christian life—it is part of God’s design for us as men. He is a generous Father, and He’s not just giving us responsibilities; He’s also giving us moments, spaces, and activities that let our souls breathe and our hearts lighten up. So when I ask, “What do you men do for fun?” I’m not asking you to be less spiritual. I’m asking if you are actually receiving what God is already offering. Are you only carrying weight, or are you also receiving joy? Are you only showing up as a leader, or are you also letting God lead you into things that make you laugh, relax, and feel alive? I want you to think about one thing you do that is pure fun for you—not a duty, not a performance, not “being a good dad” or “being a good man,” but something that feels like a gift from God to your own heart. That’s where this verse gets real: the same God who saved you also wants you emotionally and mentally healthy, and part of that is learning how to enjoy what He’s given you.
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